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Sandy Miller Counselling provides counselling to individuals, couples, families and adolescents.

ADDICTIONS

Do you feel numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people?

Counselling services for the addict
Addictions, regardless of what form takes a heavy toll on an individuals’ life.  When someone struggles with addictions, it undermines ones ability to manage their life and leads to personal, relational and professional loses.  The therapeutic work involves a number of layers that contributes to sobriety.  These include developing tools to find or remain abstinence, a collection of strategies intended to enhance self-control, modifying attitudes and behaviors related to the addictions, increase life skills to handle stressful circumstance and plans to prevent relapse. The goal of counselling is to provide a safe, structured environment to assist an individual in his/her recovery journey.

“I have accepted fear as a part of life–specifically the fear of change.  I have gone ahead despite the pounding in my heart that says: turn back.” ~ Erica Young

 

Counselling services for the families of the addict.
Addictions also have strong effects on the family of an addict.  Families of addicts go through a lot of painful feelings as they struggle with their loved ones’ addiction. It is difficult  to watch the addict becomes withdrawn, depressed, and unreliable.  Because of the strong effect on families it is important for family members to attend counselling sessions and receive support and education to assist them deal with the impact of a loved ones’ addiction.   Chances for recovery increase dramatically when families are involved.  And even if the drug addict or alcoholic won’t free themselves from the addictive behavior, their family members can and should get help so they aren’t left suffering alone with the problem.

TRAUMA

Are you isolated knowing you want to change but are feeling overwhelmed and struggling? Trauma can arise in unexpected ways, and is the result of stressful event (or events) that shatter your sense of security, making you feel helpless and vulnerable.  Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety, but any situation that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and alone can be traumatic, even if it doesn’t involve physical harm as it is the subjective emotional experience of the event that affects individuals.  If you’ve gone through a traumatic experience, you may be struggling with upsetting emotions, frightening memories, or a sense of constant danger that you just can’t kick. Or you may feel numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people.  The first goal of counselling is to deal with the way trauma changes emotional responses and how these altered responses impact behavior.  The focus of counselling is on the various ways to help you manage your traumatic stress responses. These strategies will help you feel stronger and better able to cope, and find ways to care for yourself. Building on these skills, counselling moves onto assisting you to resolve deeply held fears around the trauma experiences while integrating the traumatic experience into the landscape of your life experiences. Recovery from trauma arises from the understanding of the way that meaning was made from the trauma based on these fears.  Resolving and reprocessing experiences restores our sense of trust and security in our various relationships and communities.

“No matter what is going on in our life, there remains a part of us that is silent, powerful, wise and untouched by the external noise”. ~ Craig Townsend

DEPRESSION

Are you isolated knowing you want to change but are feeling overwhelmed and struggling? Depression is something that you do not made up in your head or being down from time to time, rather it is the low, dark feelings that linger and intensify over weeks and months affecting your personal, social and professional relationships. Depression is a psychological condition that changes how you think and feel, and also affects your social behavior and sense of physical well-being. Depression can leave people with distorted, critical or ruminating thoughts about ourselves; dark, despairing or uninterested thoughts; or physical changes such as lack of sleep or changes in appetite.  Counselling examines the roots of depression and assists in areas to restore the balance of emotions and general outlook on life. The supportive therapeutic relationship eases the pain of depression and addresses the low feeling that accompany depression.  Dependant on what is presented in counselling, treatment will vary.  Counselling may look to change pessimistic ideas, unrealistic expectations, and overly critical self-evaluations that create depression and sustain it.   It may involve  problem solving skills to change areas in an individual’s life that is creating significant stress such as developing coping skills or improving interpersonal skills. Or it may begins with identifying the areas of difficulty such as interpersonal problems or deficits or interpersonal disputes then focuses on resolving these difficulties.  The goal of counselling is to reduce the symptoms of depression, improve relationship with self, others or the world and gain well-being.

“A moment’s insight is sometimes worth a life’s experience.”
~ Oliver Wendell Holmes Sr.